Alright, I'm a relatively young guy (mid-twenties) who's currently living in Thailand. I'm here training Muay Thai and the gym that I'm living at is located in Patong - which is the "nightlife hotspot" in Phuket. However, my experience is not only limited to Phuket as I was also living and training in Pattaya for about 3 months last year.
Anyway, since I'm a long term resident here and the girls don't really view me as much of an income source, they sort of befriend me and let me in on their "hustle" - which is tricking guys into sending them money. Basically, I'm the guy that sees what goes on and how your "girlfriends" behave once you say your goodbye's and head for the departure gate at the airport.
Now, before I go any further, I'll take a minute to point out that not all of the girls have bad intentions. Some of them are actually truthful and loyal, and I obviously can't stereotype every single girl in a country with a population of about 64 million people. However, what I can do is pass along my own observations but keep in mind, I'm referring to the Thai bar girls and not Thai women as a whole.
The girls that work in the bars are usually a lot younger than the guys that fall in love with them. They're working in the bars for a reason, and that is to make money to provide for their families back at home - which is usually somewhere up in Issan. If you end up saying your goodbye's and going home, there a 100 percent chance that she will remain in the bars unless you send her money every month.
Of course, sending her money on a monthly basis doesn't buy her loyalty. A lot of these girls do an excellent job at making you believe that they genuinely love you and that you're the only one. The problem is that they're doing the same thing to multiple guys at once and oftentimes, they're stringing you all through the mud.
The internet cafes in either Pattaya or Patong become pretty interesting at around 3 in the morning. You know, because this is when the girls get home from work (the ones who didn't end up going with a "customer" that is) and they all sign into MSN to chat with their "boyfriends".
Oftentimes, I'll be working in there and it's not uncommon for me to see a girl with around 4 chat boxes going at once. However, the real sneaky girls will focus on each of their "sponsors" one on one. They will give each of them their undivided attention until they make up an excuse (usually that they're going to bed) and end the conversation.
Once they end the conversation, they will move onto the next guy (either unblock them) or switch accounts entirely. The best is when I overhear the girls ask the guys for money. It's always some sort of unexpected emergency too. You know, something like "My friend go Bangkok and take all money. Now I cannot pay for room" (of course, that's word for word how they would sound, broken English and all).
So, it begs the question. If the girls already have money coming in every month, why do they still work in the bars? Well, there's a few reasons. They realize that they're not going to remain young forever and there's a lot of pressure on them to provide for their families. They're not going to "put all of their eggs in one basket" so to speak by relying on only one guy. Rather, they're going to keep working in the bars, keep meeting foreign men and keep on trying to reel them in for long term income. After all, 5 income sources is better than 1, right?
And of course, as much as you hate to think about it, a lot of these girls will even go with guys for free while you're sending them money each month. With their income sources (you and whoever else is sending them money), they can afford it and it's foolish to think that they're not interested in younger, more physically attractive guys. It's only natural.
I've met girls here who actually work in the bars by choice (although most don't like it) and the reason they do so is because they're bored back at home. The longer they've been here, the greater the chance that they will want to stay because they lay down roots (make friends etc.). So, here's my advice to you guys who come here looking for love. First of all, you're probably looking in the wrong places (the bars) but if you insist on doing so, then I recommend that if you're going to open your heart (and your wallets) to one of these girls, you should find one who is very new on the scene.
The longer she's been here, the more hardened she will become. It's not so much about how long she's been here, but rather, if she's been "burned". And by "burned", I mean had her heart broken. If you get to her early, you can certainly be the guy that "saves" her. But if not, well, your heart and bank account will both be hurting by the end of your relationship.
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